This post presented by guest blogger Gracie Mussenden.
Gracie is the 13-year-old daughter of Sara Hiebert and Rick Mussenden, sister to Claire, bestie to Alton (follow him on Instagram @altonthepup), soccer player, artist, music lover, friend. Here, Gracie shares her insight and wisdom around friendship based on her own personal experiences and observations.
Friendship: there are many ups and downs to it. People are all different, and they bond over different things. I have been in many situations with friends - lots of fun times, but also arguments, fights, hardships, and so much more. I am writing about this today so I can share my experiences and everything I have learned about friendship so far.
Friends are some of the best things in life. They can help you in the good and bad times in your life. Best friends are even better. Not only do they help and support you, you can tell them anything. They are caring, comforting people who love you as you are. Whether you met them this year, or in kindergarten, they will always be worth having.
Fights are the hardest part of friendship. Even if it's over the smallest thing, fights still hurt. If a friend says something mean to you, the impact is much greater because you wonder how someone who was your best friend, just yesterday, could be so mean today. The good news is that if you and your friend were super close before, you will both soon realize you are losing something amazing. I have had little arguments and fights with some of my really close friends, and almost every time we quickly make up. Fights are tough, but they can always be resolved.
Grudges are almost always unnecessary. If someone is mean or bullies you, you have the right to hold a grudge, but if someone bumps into you in the hall, holding a grudge is just an overreaction. Sometimes people have a hard time forgiving or apologizing, but if you still want that friend, you need to try and let it go. I know that is way easier said than done, but at least try to see it from their side. It could have just been a misunderstanding.
If someone has been overly mean or rude to you, you might ask yourself, "should I stay friends with them?" or "why should I stay close?" But you're asking the wrong question. Instead, ask yourself, "do I WANT to stay close?" after all, the decision is yours. If someone has hurt you so much, you don't need them in your life. Don't put yourself through that again. If you do become friends again with that person, make sure you're careful.
Through sadness, being proud, losses, fights, and memories, friends will be there. If you lose a friend, you can always gain a new one. I hope you got something out of this because I feel most of this applies to everyone's life at some point. I really hope this will help you sometime, because, after all, that's what friends are for.
Life Coach, Yogi & lover of Meditation, mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter, cookie baker, seeker of truth & laughter, volunteer. Passionate about women's stories and the women who share them.