Ego is a funny thing. Most of us know that we can accomplish great things when we work as a team, or even with just one other person to bounce ideas off... but then we start to wonder: who gets the credit? the praise? Maybe we'd rather work alone so that we can reap all the rewards and benefits and not have to share. But will we get as far working alone?
Some people might. I have realized that I don't. There are things I love to do alone: write this blog. Take my dog for a walk. Watch Super Soul Sunday. Drink coffee. Meditate. And alone time is healthy and necessary...life is best when we really do enjoy our own company. But when I look at my short list of "alone" things, I realize: actually, all of those things are even better when I do them with someone else. Coffee - alone is good. With a friend or maybe even my sister, if we're ever in the same place at the same time? Fabulous. Walk my dog - alone is just fine. But add my friend Jackie (& her dog) to the mix, and it's amazing. Meditate - peace and quiet alone can totally fill me up. But when I've meditated in a group, all of us focusing on one thing and raising the vibrations of our collective energy: powerful and life-changing.
This week I met a friend for coffee. Like me, she works mostly alone, has one-on-one clients, and is in a healing profession. Our professional interests are complementary, and yet we've never really collaborated. Over the course of our conversation, we were brainstorming about things we both want to do in the next year or so, and we came up with an idea of a thing we can do together. It took a minute for me to realize that we were talking about working together on an initiative, not side by side, but actually collaborating. I was so pleased to realize that my gut reaction was, "this is amazing" instead of "how can I do this alone?" like I might have a few years ago. (What's the big thing? Stick around this blog in the next couple of months...)
The Goddess Network never would have gotten off the ground were it not for my own willingness and that of my friend Dawn Southey Hills to just start it... we like to say that we held hands and jumped in, with no preconceived ideas of what it would turn into. I think it's safe to say that neither one of us would have launched The Goddess Network alone; we needed each other's perspective, gifts and talents, and bravery to collaborate and make it happen!
Maybe these examples feel kind of over the top. Maybe you'd feel more comfortable making a plan to meet a new friend for a walk instead of buying into a franchise together... I get that. Small steps are often the best way to start. But please start. No matter how much time we're alone, we're not really alone in this life, and it really is better together.
(The "it's better together" print is currently for sale in Edmonton as a fundraiser to aid Nepal earthquake victims. Message me if you'd like information on where to purchase your own print).
Life Coach, Yogi & lover of Meditation, mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter, cookie baker, seeker of truth & laughter, volunteer. Passionate about women's stories and the women who share them.